Anxiety control , everyone has anxiety. either planned or spontaneous.
- initial minutes before the speaking.
- Greet Anxiety - say to yourself that is natural and common. it helps it not spinning out of proportion.
- start by asking questions. makes the speaking into conversational with the audience.
- use conversational language while speaking.
- be in the present moment. Don't worry about the future states.
- can use tongue twister
- push ups.
- walk around a building.
Ground Rules for speaking
Get out of your own. easier said than done.
- we are planning to do get it right. there is no way to be right , without doing it.
- Brain is there to help you.
- ACTIVITY - point at something and say wrong. - dont use patterns or stockpile. get out of the muscle memory and force to get your brain out of way.
See things / situation as Opportunity.
- when your boss says why dont you introduce, dont freeze instead think it is an opportunity.
- ACTIVITY - when you open a gift, opens the box, find something, and gift gaver , will say " I am glad that you got this , I gave you because... "
- less nervous, be in the moment and it is a opportunity.
- Approach you take to the situation.
Slow down & listen.
- as a communicator, you have to fulfill your audience.
- ACTIVITY : SPELL IT . Person A spell something to and respond back in SPELL IT.
- Focus and Listen is the outcome. Then you can respond in a better way.
- Don't jus do something, stand there.
Have a Structure
- you can process structured information 40% more than unstructured info.
- Problem -> Solve -> Benefits.
- Never lose your audience.
- it is a wonderful
- What it Is (what Is the problem)? -> So what ?(why it is important) -> Now what ? ( what we do next)
- for introducing people.
- In spontaneous speaking, this structure or template helps us.
- Acknowledge the emotion. " I hear a great concern ... I hear your passion"
- Awareness in advance.
- Engagement with the listener.
- Take polling question
- Use Colloborating tools
Have Ideas and Themes.
Understand the cultural expectation.
Humour - is wonderfully connectiing, it is highly risky,self-deprecating humor.
- Don't do humor if you can avoid it.
Why ? - ask more often.
Ask Advice ? changes the speaker will provide guidance.
Recommended book - Speaking up with out freaking out. nofreakingspeaking.com