public speaking

• Anxiety control , everyone has anxiety. either planned or spontaneous.

  • initial minutes before the speaking.
  • Greet Anxiety - say to yourself that is natural and common. it helps it not spinning out of proportion.
  • start by asking questions. makes the speaking into conversational with the audience.
  • use conversational language while speaking.
  • be in the present moment. Don't worry about the future states.
    • can use tongue twister
    • push ups.
    • walk around a building.

• Ground Rules for speaking

  • Get out of your own. easier said than done.

    • we are planning to do get it right. there is no way to be right , without doing it.
    • Brain is there to help you.
    • ACTIVITY - point at something and say wrong. - dont use patterns or stockpile. get out of the muscle memory and force to get your brain out of way.

  • See things / situation as Opportunity.

    • when your boss says why dont you introduce, dont freeze instead think it is an opportunity.
    • ACTIVITY - when you open a gift, opens the box, find something, and gift gaver , will say " I am glad that you got this , I gave you because... "
    • less nervous, be in the moment and it is a opportunity.
    • Approach you take to the situation.

  • Slow down & listen.

    • as a communicator, you have to fulfill your audience.
    • ACTIVITY : SPELL IT . Person A spell something to and respond back in SPELL IT.
    • Focus and Listen is the outcome. Then you can respond in a better way.
    • Don't jus do something, stand there.

  • Have a Structure

    • you can process structured information 40% more than unstructured info.
    • Problem -> Solve -> Benefits.
      • Never lose your audience.
      • it is a wonderful
    • What it Is (what Is the problem)? -> So what ?(why it is important) -> Now what ? ( what we do next)
      • for introducing people.
    • In spontaneous speaking, this structure or template helps us.

  • Hostile Situation

    • Acknowledge the emotion. " I hear a great concern ... I hear your passion"
    • Awareness in advance.
    • Practice

  • Remote Situation

    • Engagement with the listener.
    • Take polling question
    • Use Colloborating tools

  • Have Ideas and Themes.

  • Paraphrasing

  • Understand the cultural expectation.

  • Humour - is wonderfully connectiing, it is highly risky,self-deprecating humor.

    • Don't do humor if you can avoid it.

  • Why ? - ask more often.

  • Ask Advice ? changes the speaker will provide guidance.

Recommended book - Speaking up with out freaking out. 
nofreakingspeaking.com