Anxiety control , everyone has anxiety. either planned or spontaneous.
Ground Rules for speaking
Get out of your own. easier said than done.
See things / situation as Opportunity.
Slow down & listen.
Have a Structure
Have Ideas and Themes.
Understand the cultural expectation.
Humour - is wonderfully connectiing, it is highly risky,self-deprecating humor.
Why ? - ask more often.
Ask Advice ? changes the speaker will provide guidance.
Recommended book - Speaking up with out freaking out. nofreakingspeaking.com